Mean Girls

Usually we just ignore the Trio's little show and rarely post about it here, because, seriously, it deserves to die and any attention we give it just keeps it going. However, today's "episode" of TMI Weekly is called "Mean Girls," and we couldn't help but bite. Since Mary admonishes viewers for writing negative things on a "public forum," we also can't help but feel a little singled out (aww, thanks bunny!). Our Trio discusses why women are so catty toward one another and how jealousy is often the cause. Sigh.

We're at work, bunnies, so we can't delve too deep into the way these girls present their subject, but we want to know what you think. Here's what TMI Weekly commenters have said thus far (despite their new commenting policy, who knows if these will get deleted):

• Vez wrote on February 5, 1:59 pm

  You girls touched on some really important issues. You are right, many girls will put you down for anything, even if you make a tiny spelling mistake they will dwell on it like you have majorly screwed up in life and tell you that you are uneducated and stupid! When a person can let go of judgment and accept a person as they are then there will be no more negative criticism and mean behaviors. Why create such negative destruction anyways, it really doesn't do anything for you, it just feeds you with more negative energy and no one likes to be around that. It's not cool to look at someone and pick on their imperfections. And even so, what an imperfection is for one person can be perfection for another. I am glad you did this episode, I really like it that you girls continue to be yourselves and let all the negativity roll off you backs! Keep it up!
  
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• LauraDameeks wrote on February 5, 1:47 pm

  I can be a total mean girl. My comments about people are usually on the negative side, but I try not to hate on other girls' appearances. I'm usually dissing something substantive. But I will say, sometimes when I listen to myself I'm just like UGH. Can I not see the good in people?

  
  
• NewRachael wrote on February 5, 1:31 pm

  In your situation specifically, most of the people who've become detractors (me included) originally started as people who cheered you on. What you're seeing now is a direct reaction to suggestions that weren't answered or even acknowledged, blogging practices that were dishonest, and a general apathy towards the people who read your site and give you the much-coveted pageviews.
  
  I don't think it's jealousy so much as overwhelming frustration with your consistent lack of substance. The people leaving mean comments aren't hating for hating's sake, they're frustrated with your site's inability to live up to its potential.
  
  That said, Mary, I admire that you have been blogging about things relevant to your area of expertise, like hair dryers and eyeliner. That may sound sarcastic, but it's not. You are doing a good job of reinforcing your brand as the style expert, and I really thing Meghan and Julia could learn a lot from the way you approach your blog. Sorry... "lifecast."
  
  -- Rachael Osborn

• Auntie Em wrote on February 5, 1:19 pm

  So, when Mary posts a picture of somebody on her blog and states what is wrong with the fashion choice this person made-- that is not mean-- that is her profession?
  
  When Julia gave her comments on Brittney Spears, or stated that Biden's son was a douchbag, or that Charles Foreman was one too, again, not mean, just being a professional?
  
  It has probably been taken down by now, but didn't Mary blog that 'frisky' [another blogger] was a manipulative bitch?
  
  The moderators of this site--warn that profanity will not be accepted, yet, Julia drops a couple of F bombs on her panel at DLD, Mary swears quite frequently in her blog and in this segment--bitches [used to refer to those of us who earnestly disagree] and the word shit are acceptable.
  
  This is classic NS policy: Take us or leave us--we can rip on people--we can post/delete--never address very basic issues--and still consider ourselves transparent and professional.
  
  The little things--Mary blogs that she has not been on her computer or cell for a day-- yet, within the time frame Mary refers to, both Julia and Meghan post pictures of Mary on her cell and typing on her computer. Is this a big deal-- no--however, what was Mary's purpose for blogging that statement at all?
  
  I have to go with the lion's share of naysayers--NS is just a bunch of kissy face pictures of girls screaming LOOK AT US. Watch us go here and there, fly back and forth, and look at all the different clothes we wear and opportunities we have. Do not ask us how we afford plane tickets, do not comment on the clothes we wear [????] do not have opinions. Just look into the windows of our crazy lives and shut the F up if you do not like it.
  
  Nice.Job.Ladies.

  
  
• lindsey wrote on February 5, 1:00 pm

  It's nice to see you girls attempting to maturely address an issue that's obviously been bugging you lately. I don't believe you succeeded entirely, but I appreciate that you were up-front and refused to stoop to the obnoxious level of the "haters" you've been faced with lately. Where you fell short was in the method of delivery - you could have used some research or an expert opinion to support the points you were trying to make.

  
  
• greykittie wrote on February 5, 1:00 pm

  LOLocaust @ 4:40! Go Mary, Go Mary, Go!
  
  Sassy...it's free content. Don't get your knickers in a twist, they can say whatever they want and you will probably still watch them! :D
  
  Even when I disagree with you guys, I love to watch, because you are like INTERACTIVE SEX AND THE CITY, and though I freaking hated that show on a social level, I found it entertaining and love Patricia Fields' styling for Carrie. For example, the idea of a colonic scares the crap out of me [pun unintended] and I think juicing is a cool concept but for a lady on a weight gain mission, totally unrelatable.
  
  Actually, can you do an episode on trying to GAIN weight? I feel like the only one in the world...
  
  In regards to the episode though, I did feel a little awkward, but it's because no one is a fan of admitting that they talk shit. When someone mentions gossiping or starts to gossip, you feel guilty, but it's fun, and usually the fun outweighs the guilt. Sucks to admit, but it's true. It's just human nature and it's something we often try to change. Timeless issues.
  
  Also, Julia rocks headbands like no other! DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU THAT YOU ARE NOT UBERFABULOUS. You are! I love your make-up! I love your ribbons! I am jealous of your super shiny long hair!
  
  Love,
  Kate/Hayley Jane

  
  
• melindanyc wrote on February 5, 12:58 pm

  This is an obvious attempt to try and make those who leave negative feedback feel bad. Have you ladies ever considered the possibility that people are not jealous of you because you have nothing we wish to covet? Is it possible that aspects of your personalities are offensive or just wholly unlikeable? Isn't that an easy excuse to say that such dislike stems from jealousy? Isn't that a passive aggressive way to try and put yourselves on pedestals and make people think you have lives worthy of our jealousy?

  
  
• avogueidea wrote on February 5, 12:42 pm

  @sassy Im sure the mean comments are what brought up the idea for this epsiode, but the issue of "mean girls" is bigger than just a few comments on a website, and I think the n.s. Girls get that, and THATS why they did this episode.
  And it not that condescneding because they admited that they are not saints... they have done it too from time to time, but its the fact that they felt guilty about it and regretted their actions that counts. Sometimes people that leave nasty anon. comments on the internet probably feel not one ounce or guilt or regret, and its terribly sad for them that they're so void true happiness.

  
  
• Giselle wrote on February 5, 12:28 pm

  I think you're taking a rather tired and stereotypical argument and use it to defend and protect yourselves. In one breath Julia says she doesn't hate on other women, in the next she's admitting to hating on another woman citing that "she's human." Oh, she's human, but the rest of us who give in to those more petty urges, where "Mean Girls?" Thanks. Also, you ladies are pushing 30. Enough with the comparisons to shows and movies that involve teenagers.

  
  
• itzlindz98 wrote on February 5, 11:54 am

  Nice episode, girls! Its really brave of your to bring up such a touchy subject for most people. I agree with you that at the end of the day, why should you be mean or talk behind other people's backs? You're only hurting yourself. And to quote my favorite movie, Mean Girls...
  
  "Calling somebody else fat won't make you any skinnier. Calling someone stupid doesn't make you any smarter. And ruining Regina George's life definitely didn't make me any happier. All you can do in life is try to solve the problem in front of you/"
  
  SO TRUE!

  
  
• Sassy wrote on February 5, 11:36 am

  yikes, this is a pretty condescending episode. Mary gets a bit aggressive at the end with "mean girls, rethink this, it's YOU that looks bad!" etc. This whole 'we don't talk shit, neither should you' theme is just uncomfortable. the girls are essentially scolding commenters and telling them to be nicer to them.